Analyzing the list 1

I don’t want to do it
Last week I told you to list your “to-dos” and figure out why you never finish certain items, which from now on we will call your “to-don’ts”. Today we take a closer look at the ones you say you don’t want to do.

When you look at a list of things that never get done, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
1) Why do I always say yes to stuff I really don’t care to do?
2) Why do people always expect me to do X or Y?
3) Did you include in your to-do list something you are afraid off?
Let’s break it down.

If you are always saying yes to things whether you want to do them or not
You really need to learn to say NO. Learn to put yourself first.

If you have things on your list that others expect you to do
Again, put yourself first. Your word to yourself should be as important as your word to others. You set your own standards to how you want to live your life. Do not allow others to decide those standards for you. If they are so interested in getting something done, they should do it. Learn to voice your priorities. Be polite when saying no. Be firm.

Are you afraid?
The last example is different. Some times we say we don’t want to do something, when in reality, we are afraid of doing the thing or we are afraid of the results of doing the thing. You have to be incredibly honest with yourself and face the truth. If you are afraid, then next Monday we will tackle those items on the list that we are afraid off.

In the meantime, add to your list of “to don’ts” those thing you added to your task list for the week and you continually put off. We will get through this, one step at a time.

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